I am going to be completely real about the most under-rated, yet top of the chart talks going on amisdt christian singles who desperately need answers. Take a look at the quote below and see if it sounds familiar;
“WAITING SUCKS
No one truly understands what it feels like to wait, waiting for the “right person”.
how long do I have to wait? Just don’t tell me none of that, I’m tired and done.
Anyone who comes my way,ill get married to, and if no one comes my way? I’ll take it as my damned fate, but I don’t want to hear none of those frustrating words, you have no idea how it feels. I’m just done with all the societal and family pressure, its too over-bearing”
If it did, this article might just throw light in that blurry area.
A couple of months back, my good girl-friend who has been dating this great guy, sent me a photo. yup! She just got engaged. I was so excited, celebrating her love life, and she in-turn reciprocated back by encouraging me that mine is on the way coming! I laughed so hard and told her to
“Sharapp!”
Instantly recalling a funny memes… I continued:
“well girl-friend, I think mine got hit by a bus or something, hence, I’ll start by checking all the general hospitals in my area before going public via social media”
We both laughed it off!
The relationship topic ‘WAIT-ON-THE-LORD’ has countless times been preached on our pulpits with majority of those speakers already married or engaged. During the meetings we often feel liberated, declaring & decreeing , feeling greatly encouraged to wait-on-the-lord & super expectant.
Right after that, we step out the church door & boom! we sight the speaker receiving some warm loving hug, suddenly like lightening, we begin to question the just concluded teaching. Heading to our lonely corners and falling back to ground zero, thinking to ourselves
“Does this speaker even have an idea of what if feels like to be a single in waiting?”
May I say, It’s perfectly alright to view this article as one of the many ‘WAIT-ON-THE-LORD’ speeches, but before you jump the gun, please keep in mind that, it’s not just about spilling biblical truths, personally I share in this feeling. Hence, what you’re about to read, is nothing but the truth, coming from a heart that struggled to understand, and accept.
Job said “i will yet wait on the lord until my change comes”, such great faith!
The truth is, we have no best way around this. I mean, would you rather marry the wrong person and not be able to undo? or even if you undo by getting a divorce, you are forever tagged as that DIVORCED person, by the same society or family whose ‘pressures’ you gave into.
Dear one, it's better to be single-free-happy-&praying to be married THAN married-alone-depressed-suicidal-&-wishing you were single. Why because, marrying the wrong person could totally alter your life in a terrible way.
OK!
Before I get the frown, am not saying marrying God’s choice of a life partner for you, completely annihilates conflict that occasionally comes up in marriage, what am saying is, marrying the right person gives you a peace, a sense of confidence to boldly take the matter to God & makes your marriage conflict-proof, misunderstandings would hardly get blown out of proportion, because a cord of three [God+you+spouse] cannot be easily broken. It’s a ‘God first_Priorities linear’ equation.
You've got to do this for you, make the right choice, because you get to live with that choice. Be willing to open-up to Godly wise counsels, get attached to God-driven mentors, participate in singles events, ask questions & Listen, believe me, it helps.
If you are in a relationship and your spirit is troubled or you feel immense fear? please take a step back, it could be God warning you of unforeseeable dangers your union would be. If you are co-habiting or co-living? Flee! Pre-marital sex is a No-No. Repent & start allover again with God. Please resist, immediate & extended Pressure. Being 25, 30 or 45 doesn't mean it's late, so be patient, build capacity, educate yourself, develop or improve on your skills and discover your life's purpose/calling.
Tell yourself:
“yes i can wait on God's perfect timing & choice of a suitable mate”
I believe, God's own choice would absolutely love, respect & accept to live with your imperfections as though perfect, that person would have a huge widow for your repeated mistakes even as they patiently wait for you to grow out of it.
Please note, I am not saying you should stay without dating someone, off-cause you both need to know and understand yourselves [I.e intellectually and spiritually], even as you look up to God for a yes! and when you do? Do not hesitate, go for it in faith.
To the gentleman reading this, Like Adam, tend to the garden God has given you, keep becoming the Man he’s created you to be.
To the lady, you are perfect the way God made you and He’s placed you right where you need be, do not move, allow your Adam wake up & see you properly positioned right there.
[though I must say, some ‘Adams’ are over sleeping, if you know what I mean 😅]
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