20 SMART WAYS TO FIND AND STAY IN LOVE

So I’ve been thinking of simple smart baby-steps to find & stay in love. More and more people keep falling into a depressed and hopeless state. So now, am throwing you a challenge, why not let’s try it God's way?

 

DISCLAIMER!!!

I am still a work in progress 
      1.  Be Yourself

                  Might as well get it all in the open now

There’s nothing as simple as just being you, no pretense, just as I am, here, have it. Never Pretend to Be Who you’re not or You’ll Have to Keep on Pretending but wonder for how long that’ll be. 
2.  Get Over It Before You Get On With It

Do yourself a favor, go away & hide somewhere while you lick your wounds

Like seriously though! A breakup is not the 2^nd chance to fall into another relationship, but a second time to get knowledge; you definitely need it, whether it was your fault or not, learn to be teachable none the less. Get over it J

3.  You Won’t Be Happy With A Partner Until You Can Be On Your Own 
As straight forward as it can be, don’t be fooled, you don’t need one, God has giving everyman the capacity to be happy as a single. Don’t rush, calm down, discover yourself, and learn to be happy on your own, other than this? You’re dangerous to be with really L

Far too many people stay in unhappy relationships because they’re scared to be alone

4. You’ll Know Them When You Meet Them

If you aren’t sure right at the beginning, that’s normal 

Am sure we’ve all heard about “LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT”. so many theories that has left we Christians at a cross road. Well, good news, its normal not to know at first, all it takes is constant communication until the green light blinks J

5.  Choose Someone Who Makes You Laugh 
Isn’t this my favorite? Now, calm down, am not referring to the evil genius kinda laughter. Neither am I referring to the plastic surgery kinda laughter. Am referring to true genuine laughter, choose someone who makes you laugh really hard to tears

A sense of humour will last you long after everything else has gone   

     6.  Being Less Than A 100% Attractive Is A Great Filter

Anyone worth having you will love you for yourself 

QED + totally true= EOD. 

7.   Don’t Keep Making The Same Mistakes

This really is a sad one, please take a minute and ask yourself if you deserve to be disappointed over and over again, I can tell you it breaks God’s heart when you keep doing this, it means you don’t trust him enough to get you settled once and for all.

You have to decide whether to commit your life to a string of failed relationships

      8.  Certain people are off limits [you know who they are]

I don’t know where you draw your line, but you have to draw a big thick one

O yes! You do know them well enough, your siblings fiancé/fiancée, sugar daddies/mummies, siblings Exs, best-friends partners, married Men/women etc. there’s something I do, sometimes its abit annoying but it’s the best way out for me. I always must find out if my “obvious” single open minded male friends are seeing someone or not, with that, I know exactly how to further communicate. 

9.  You Can’t Change People

Rather than nag/rant about that person, why not pray about it and let God. Take the log out of your own eyes before venturing to take out some else’s speck.

Everyone can be irritating from time to time in a relationship, including YOU

10.     Relationships Aren’t About Sex

The danger is that you’ll mistake lust for love;

“thou shall not commit sexual immorality”

I’m not going to talk much because this is now more of a national anthem than it is a command or ‘advice’. 

11.   Get To Know Someone Through All The Seasons Before Making Any Major Decision

If this is really the right person to be with, waiting 12 months will be well worth it

Make this a command henceforth; thou shall get to know thy partner before absolutely making a long-term commitment.

12.           Don’t Stay With Someone Who Doesn’t Care

You want a partner who makes you feel special because you are

Again I’m not stressing on this point, its simple and straight forward.

13.           If You Can’t Trust Them, You Haven’t Got A Relationship

Whoever it is must inspire trust in you. Forget about those who tell you you’re insecure because the happen to have an enigmatic character, those set are dangerous to be with in a relationship really # I personally politely avoid them, by making them feel like I want them around but then, letting go#

Everyone can be irritating from time to time in a relationship, including YOU

14.         Be Honest While You Still Have The Chance 

The crucial thing is not to LIE 

I must say that sometimes I truly wonder if people really deserve to be told the truth in all honesty. I personally haven’t found this too easy, as am a very straight forward person, as it is, I say it, no time to be cunny, but I also believe one can be diplomatic about things, well what is the Godly thing to do, do it. Just be honest to whoever it is you’re with. No LIES. 

15.    Don’t Play Games

The only way to begin a relationship is as you mean to go on

Like seriously though, it makes no sense at all. It doesn’t translate as you being sophisticated or posh. No hard-to-get methods just go on if you decide to. It’s not a play-let; it’s a person’s heart, please!

16.           Don’t Tar New Partners With Old Brushes

Lots of things in life follow the same basic principle every time, but that doesn’t apply to partners

Most times, after a hard mind torturing breakup, we tend to just give up on the fact that someone better or best could ever walk into our life. As a saying goes, we look so hard at the closed door that we don’t realize the greater one that has been opened to us. The good news is that, God never gives you less than the person who just walked out of your life, be it a partner, friend, family etc. the best always come after the worse, the latter is always greater than the former, am a living testimony to that, someone say amen!

17.           Check You Both Have The Same Shared Goals

Do not be unequally yoked with anyone, be it your believes, goals, dreams, vision etc. this is a vital determinant to a healthy and successful relationship. Don’t take things like this for granted #if you’re in doubt of this, then I can boldly tell you NO it wouldn’t work#

Before you make any serious commitment you really need to hammer this stuff out

18.           You Can’t Make Someone Love You

Maybe you tried to change, to become the person they really want

This is also a sad one, loving someone who doesn’t love you back yea? A plague say’s “loving someone who doesn’t love you is like waiting for a ship at the airport” #futile# just be yourself please, don’t pretend and trap someone#

19.           Be cruel to be kind

Leave everyone free to get on with their lives

20.           Without Jesus ye can do nothing

Your life should be so hidden in Christ that your partner has to seek him to find you

With all the above mentioned, without Jesus all this would be a rat race, you need Jesus in your life to be fulfilled. He offers pure agape love. He all you need, he’s all you should ever want to have. He’s the way, the truth and the life. He offers eternal life & satisfaction. He’s the best love doctor. He’s my inspiration; you can make him yours too by saying this;

“lord Jesus, I invite into my heart right this minute, I surrender all to you, I'm making you lord, savior and master of my life, thank you Jesus for accepting me. Amen!

CONGRATULATIONS enjoy a fulfilled successful life. 

Until next post, yours sincerely 

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