So I’ve been thinking of simple smart baby-steps to find & stay in
love, o yea!J. Well emmm! Not the Hollywood/Bollywood/Nollywood style,
but the “God’s-design-your-own-style” and I was like, really, the world’s system
of going about this has proving futile over the years. More and more people
keep falling into a depressed and hopeless state. So now, am throwing you a
challenge, why not let’s try it the “God’s-design-your-own-style” in this very
simple straight forward ways, hope your enlightened and richly blessed, I’ll
love to read of great love testimonies.
DISCLAIMER!!!
I’m still a working
progress, but for some reason I’ve been able to move beyond some of these through
prayers and total dependence on God, so, if I could do it? You too can [
hehehe].
- Be Yourself
Might as well get it all in the open
now
There’s nothing as simple as just being you,
no pretense, just as I am, here, have it. Never Pretend to Be Who you’re not or
You’ll Have to Keep on Pretending, And Hmmmm! I wonder for how long that’ll be.
2. Get
Over It Before You Get On With It
Do yourself a favor, go away & hide
somewhere while you lick your wounds J
Like seriously thoughL! A breakup is not the 2nd chance
to fall into another relationship, but a second time to get knowledge; you
definitely need it, whether it was your fault or not, learn to be teachable
none the less. Get over it J
3. You Won’t Be Happy With A Partner
Until You Can Be On Your Own
As
straight forward as it can beJ, don’t be fooled, you don’t need one,
God has giving everyman the capacity to be happy as a single. Don’t rush, calm
down, discover yourself, and learn to be happy on your own, other than this?
You’re dangerous to be with really L
Far
too many people stay in unhappy relationships because they’re scared to be
alone
4. You’ll Know Them When You Meet Them
If you aren’t sure right at the beginning,
that’s normal J
Am
sure we’ve all heard about “LOVE AT FISRT SIGHT”, “ADAM KNEW EVE IMMEDIATELY HE
SAW HER” #blablablah#. so many theories that has left we Christians at a cross
road. Well, good news, its normal not to know at first, all it takes is
constant communication until the green light blinks J
5. Choose Someone Who Makes You Laugh
JHehehe! Isn’t this my favorite? Now,
calm down, am not referring to the evil genius kinda laughter JHehehe!
Neither am I referring to the plastic surgery kinda laughter. Am referring to
true genuine laughter, choose someone who makes you laugh really hard to tears J
A
sense of humour will last you long after everything else has gone
6. Being Less Than A 100% Attractive
Is A Great FilterJ
Anyone
worth having you will love you for yourself J
QED + totally true= EOD.
7. Don’t Keep Making The Same Mistakes
LThis really is a
sad one, please take a minute and ask yourself if you deserve to be
disappointed over and over again, I can tell you it breaks God’s heart when you
keep doing this, it means you don’t trust him enough to get you settled once
and for all.
You
have to decide whether to commit your life to a string of failed relationships
8. Certain people are off limits [you
know who they are]
I don’t know where you draw your line, but
you have to draw a big thick one J
J O yes! You do
know them well enough, your siblings fiancé/fiancée, sugar daddies/mummies,
siblings Exs, best-friends partners, married Men/women etc. there’s something I
do, sometimes its abit annoying but it’s the best way out for me JHehehe!
I always must find out if my “obvious” single open minded male friends are
seeing someone or not, with that, I know exactly how to further communicate.
9. You Can’t Change People
Rather
than nag/rant about that person, why not pray about it and let God. Take the
log out of your own eyes before venturing to take out some else’s speck J
Everyone
can be irritating from time to time in a relationship, including YOU
10.
Relationships
Aren’t About Sex
The danger is that
you’ll mistake lust for love;
“thou shall not commit
sexual immorality”
I’m
not going to talk much because this is now more of a national anthem than it is
a command or ‘advice’.
11.
Get
To Know Someone Through All The Seasons Before Making Any Major Decision
If
this is really the right person to be with, waiting 12 months will be well
worth it
Make this a command henceforth; thou
shall get to know thy partner before absolutely making a long-term commitment.
12.
Don’t
Stay With Someone Who Doesn’t Care
You want a partner who makes you feel special because you are
Again I’m not stressing
on this point, its simple and straight forward.
13.
If
You Can’t Trust Them, You Haven’t Got A Relationship
Whoever
it is must inspire trust in youJ. Forget about those who tell you you’re
insecure because the happen to have an enigmatic character, those set are
dangerous to be with in a relationship really # I personally politely avoid
them, by making them feel like I want them around but then, letting goJ#
Everyone
can be irritating from time to time in a relationship, including YOU
14.
Be
Honest While You Still Have The Chance
The crucial thing is
not to LIEJ
I
must say that sometimes I truly wonder if people really deserve to be told the
truth in all honesty. I personally haven’t found this too easy, as am a very
straight forward person, as it is, I say it, no time to be cunny, but I also
believe one can be diplomatic about things, well what is the Godly thing to do,
do it. Just be honest to whoever it is you’re with. No LIES.
15.
Don’t
Play GamesK
The
only way to begin a relationship is as you mean to go on
Like
seriously though, it makes no sense at all. It doesn’t translate as you being
sophisticated or posh. No hard-to-get methods just go on if you decide to. It’s
not a play-let; it’s a person’s heart, please! J
16.
Don’t
Tar New Partners With Old Brushes
Lots of things in life follow the same basic principle every time, but
that doesn’t apply to partnersJ
Most
times, after a hard mind torturing breakup, we tend to just give up on the fact
that someone better or best could ever walk into our life. As a saying goes, we
look so hard at the closed door that we don’t realize the greater one that has
been opened to us. The good news is that, God never gives you less than the
person who just walked out of your life, be it a partner, friend, family etc.
the best always come after the worse, the latter is always greater than the
former, am a living testimony to that, someone say amen! JHehehe!
17.
Check
You Both Have The Same Shared Goals
Do
not be unequally yoked with anyone, be it your believes, goals, dreams, vision
etc. this is a vital determinant to a healthy and successful relationship.
Don’t take things like this for granted #if you’re in doubt of this, then I can
boldly tell you NO it wouldn’t work#
Before
you make any serious commitment you really need to hammer this stuff out
18.
LYou Can’t Make Someone Love You
Maybe you tried to change, to become the person they really want
This
is also a sad one, loving someone who doesn’t love you back yea? A plague say’s
“loving someone who doesn’t love you is like waiting for a ship at the airport”
#futileM#
just be yourself please, don’t pretend and trap someone#
19.
Be
cruel to be kind
Leave
everyone free to get on with their lives
20.
Without
Jesus ye can do nothing
Your life should be so hidden in Christ that your
partner has to seek him to find you
With all the above mentioned, without Jesus all this would be a rat race,
you need Jesus in your life to be fulfilled. He offers pure agape love. He all
you need, he’s all you should ever want to have. He’s the way, the truth and
the life. He offers eternal life & satisfaction. He’s the best love doctor.
He’s my inspiration; you can make him yours too J by saying this;
“lord Jesus, I invite into my heart
right this minute, be I surrender all to you, I am making you lord savior and
master of life, thank you Jesus for accepting me as you always have done. AmenJ!
CONGRATULATIONS enjoy a fulfilled successful lifeC.
shalom!!!
Estie LOVES
you!
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