SHOCKING TRUTH# WHAT "CHURCH GIRLZ" IGNORE BUT REAL MEN FIND SEXY?

😙Hey Dolls!

So am going rugged now, and his article is a hard one to swallow because I’ll be using a very strong, simple and ‘prohibited’ word, but truth is told. With so much hypocrisy going on right in the church of Christ that has left marriages weak and ‘fable’, church girls are forced to turn their heads the moment the word ‘SEXY’ is mentioned because it connotes something ‘bad’? [Oh well, don’t get me wrong]. The most confusing part is that some so-called men make it look like they absolutely don’t care about these things [well with the exception of Men who don’t want to get married or worst gays/fags] The truth is you’ve read about it in magazines, you’ve see it in movies, and you may have heard men talk about it when a ‘hot’ girl walks by [yup! Even MEN OF GOD, although in private], but have you ever wondered as a lady what makes a you stand out as sexy? Believe it or not, it’s not just the “WOW!” physical aspect of it all. Don’t get me wrong, looks play a big part in it (at least, how those looks are handled), but there are other things that figure into the equation.

AN EXPERT SAID: “SHE’S A LADY ON THE STREETS, A FREAK IN THE SHEETS AND ONE HELL OF A COOK”

To save you a long speech :D , I’ll like to ask you this; would you like to know a real man’s definition of the word ‘SEXY’ and how you can work towards being exactly that?[well after the vows been said]. Happy to say, you’ve come to the right place. Let me give you a little insight into what those classy Godless ladies know that we church girls ignore.

WARNING: If you happen to be ‘too holy’ about this, please don’t read further. Thanks :D

DISCLAIMER:

This might generate a lot of arguments about whether or not its appropriate [please note that I am not above corrections, so feel free to swag or slam :D ]. Also note that I have not achieved all these stated below, which is to say that, I am a “work in progress”.

1.      A LADY WHO’S GROWN-UP ABOUT THINGS RELATED TO SEX

“Yea, thank You For The Half Look” :D

Some men were comfortable talking about sex only after marriage. Some men are comfortable talking about it much earlier in the relationship. But all the men want a lady who is comfortable talking maturely about sex when the time is right.

Ladies if you want to enjoy 85% of whatever it is you’ve been watching in movies [well they lied by the way] you need get knowledge on how your body functions and discuss. Results show that 97.5% of men enjoy sex 100% whereas just 45% of women enjoy sex 75% the time. That’s alarming, God never designed it that way, so dig and find out. Soon, when the time is right, I’ll write an article about how to have & enjoy ‘great sex’ [with spouse off-cause], but get knowledge now so we’ll rub minds.

2.      A LADY WHO UNDERSTANDS MEN

“Not All Men Are the Same, Not All Men Are Dogs, Not All Men Want You As Slaves, So Don’t Act As One”

You might say, “huh?” calm down abit. Women who know how men function and love them for it are very sexy [truth is told]. There’s something about giving a man the rope he needs to pursue his passions that makes a woman irresistible.

3.      A LADY WHO KNOWS HOW TO SAY "THANK YOU"

Whatever are your personal policies, early dating for most men is a time when they are spending money and making plans to arrange a nice evening. Real men greatly value a lady who is able to say, “That dinner was fantastic,” and appreciates the work that went into planning the evening. A woman who has a spirit of gratitude signals to a real man, “You can make me happy,” which is a primal component to attraction.

4.      A LADY WHO LAUGHS HARD TO TEARS :D

“A real man wants a lady who thinks he’s funny. Not surprisingly, when she does think he’s funny and laughs out loud he finds that very sexy”

Now I’m not talking about some hideous witch cackle or something that eventually devolves into a pig snort. I’m talking about a smooth, strong laugh with a nice smile. A woman who’s open to laughter and not afraid to let herself go with a good laugh is a vocal woman. Do you understand where this leads in their minds? You’re vocal in this respect; you’ll be vocal later in another situation. Follow me?

So why the laugh? Why not deep conversation or intimate details of your day-to-day life? Because too much talk can be a big turn-off. They want to know that later you’ll be uninhibited in expressing yourself, but not so talkative that you won’t shut up long enough to do anything else. That little air of “maybe” keeps electricity in the air.

5.      A LADY WHO TWIGS EYE CONTACT

“A woman who knows how to lock her eyes with a man and keeps that half-smile going just before her gaze drops to the bar is great”

I’m not meaning the scary, stare-at-you-all-night-like-a-stalker girl. No, I mean the lady who isn’t afraid to look at a man and let him know she’s doing so. This is the lady who watches her man while he’s talking, and doesn’t let her eyes wander all over the room. She’s the woman who makes him think his the only other person in the room, and she’s the woman any real man would fight to keep.

6.      A LADY WHO’S GOT CONFIDENCE

I can’t stress this one enough. If you’re unfazed by a few witty remarks and don’t keep shrinking into the background, you’re in. Again, there’s a fine line here. “Confident” doesn’t mean “I have to be the center of attention all the time”. That “center of it all” lady never sticks out as anything more than a “one-nighter”. This lady is obviously way too selfish to be any good in other situations [so they’ll say].

On the other hand, a confident woman is someone who holds her own but isn’t afraid to step out of the spotlight for a while. She speaks up at the right time, but doesn’t monopolize the conversation. That kind of lady is the kind real men feel will be more confident later [I’m talking “lights on” and “on top”, and that’s amazingly sexy]

7.      AN ADVENTUROUS KINDA LADY

 I know this seems like it would fall under the “confidence” thing, but not quite. This is a fun loving, rock-climbing, mountain-biking, back-to-nature kind of lady. You are the “up for anything” woman…and they figure that’s a trait you can carry over to every area of your life [matrimonial space]

Granted, only a certain type of real man stands a chance of keeping up with you, but the man who can manage to keep up with this type of woman is envied by every man he knows. This is the athletic kinda lady, and she’s the one they picture in their marital space walking in the door after the long jog/workout and slamming them into the wall as she proceeds to tear our t-shirt to pieces. Bless you, dear woman. [did I just hear a real man just say that?]

8.      SHE'S WILLING TO BEND THE RULES

A woman who has rules, respects the rules and can still say, “This weekend the rules don’t matter,” is very sexy, and rarer than you might think according to our band of brothers. It’s this “partner in crime” mentality that men seem to find irresistible.

9.      A LADY WHO’S A GREAT KISSER

Now don’t give me that fierce i-like-what-you-said-but-don’t-say-it kinda look, am not going to tell whether or not you should kiss while dating [our pastors say it’s wrong, so please do obey *wink* you follow? :D ] but what am saying is that every real man considers himself putty in the hands of a woman who knows how to give a great kiss. It can take a woman’s sex appeal from 0 to 10 in 30 seconds. So do the math [read previous article ‘what ladies fail to reserve’ also for balance]. Get knowledge [I once heard that when you want to kiss as a lady, bend your face left [dunno myself

10. A MYSTERIOUS KINDA LADY

Yes, i know that we ladies are drawn to men who are the mysterious, strong-but-silent types, but that works both ways. A woman whose best features aren’t the most obvious ones is like a flower that’s slowly opening up. They can see the beauty on the outside, but as the flower blooms they are given a glimpse into an even deeper beauty. A Real man wants you to be that woman who turns around in the super market and give him that smile he hasn’t seen for a long time, but know in an instant he has to see it again and again.  Ladies give them the kind of smile that lets them know there’s more to you than meets the eye.

Don’t misunderstand me, I’m not telling you to go out there and learn a magic trick or something (though that would be very cool in the right context). Just don’t be one of those people who feels the need to share every single moment of their life story in the first five minutes of meeting.

11. A LADY WHO TWIGS PHYSICAL CONTACT

“Here we go again with the ‘thou shall not touch’ look you just gave me”

Touch is important and is not referring to you grabbing him and smooching etc. nahh# for example if you touch a guy’s arm while you laugh or whatever, it bumps you up a dozen notches on the “sexy” scale. You have proven you aren’t afraid to get physical. Real men like physical. Follow the logic? :D

12. A LADY WITH GREAT LOOKS

Sorry, but I couldn’t leave this one out. It is important, like it or not. Take care of yourself and the way you dress. Am not saying you should go beyond budgets with the lady gaga or nicky minaj kinda look, nah, that’s absurd_ Preferably a Uche Jumbo, Damilola Oyekanmi or Reese Witherspoon’s kinda sweet look_ make a great hair-do, have clean nails, natural make-up or none at all, be the ‘less-you-see-the-more-you-understand’ kinda lady. That’s amazingly sexy.

I believe without doubt that if Queen Esther in the bible where to write an article about her love secrets with king Xerxers’? It wouldn’t be different from these. So now you know the secrets. You’ve looked behind the curtain and found exactly what real men notice when they’re out and about. Above that, you now know why they look for these things, and that’s something you can apply to other traits I might have missed. You want to make them feel there’s no doubt you would rock their world if they are lucky enough to wed you. And if you see that pouring off of you, you’d better believe they’ll be fighting for that chance every time.

Until next post, yours sincerely

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